Older Adults

We provide individual therapy, EMDR and Neurfeedback services for older adults.

We also work with senior citizens. Seniors are one of the populations with the highest rates of depression. After retirement it’s harder to find connections, many feel obsolete and pushed to the side. That desire for connection doesn’t change and we know that people are far more alike than we are different, even with generations between us. If you’re a senior citizen and this describes your situation, come talk to us. We’re happy to have you.

We live in a weird word, don’t we? Our culture often says we value experience, yet seniors are often disregarded. I’ve seen the disappointment when they tell me about their kids not making it back for the holidays again, or the frustration when their thoughts on parenting are rejected and they have to remain silent. It’s incredibly disappointing when retirement doesn’t look the way they thought it would due to their spouse’s illness. Retirement is supposed to be an exciting thing, but many find themselves feeling quite alone.

What will the process look like?

We’ll want to start with a free 20-minute consultation. That way you can make sure we feel like the best fit for you. We’ll ask about your experience with counseling in the past, what you liked, and what you didn’t like. We’ll ask about what prompted you to seek counseling services, and about the goals you have.

After that, we’ll have you fill out some background information. Based on our what we see in your history, plus your presenting concerns, we’ll figure out where to start. Is this a situational issue? Is this a pervasive problem? Is it environmental or organic?

From there, we’ll decide which approach to take, traditional talk therapy, maybe EMDR if we see an emotional trigger, a negative belief about yourself, others, relationships, or the world, or maybe we’ll look at neurofeedback if we’re dealing with a long-standing issue that you’ve struggled to resolve, like chronic and pervasive depression, anxiety, OCD, emotional instability, or a strong fear response to a non-threatening situation.

Talk Therapy

We use talk therapy as we start counseling, whether we end up doing EMDR, or neurofeedback, we’ll start here. It helps us understand where your coming from and what your starting point is. If you are simply in a really difficult season of life, then we’ll focus on traditional therapy. We’ll focus on what your reality is like for you. What’s hard about it? What are you grieving? No one needs to deal with that alone. We may also look at patterns with thoughts, emotions, or behaviors. We might use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and look at the way you think and speak to yourself. We’ll utilize self-compassion. We’ll talk about your attachment style and how it has affect your life and relationships. And we’ll name the emotions you have coming up. You have to name it to tame it, even if it’s not the nicest emotion. The ugly emotions have their place too and we’ll wade through that together.

EMDR

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. It’s a mouthful, but it’s a brain-based therapy that helps break the emotional connection we have to beliefs or memories. If you have an internal sense that “I’m worthless”, then we’re going to look at the memories that have reinforced this belief about yourself. We’ll start with the more recent events, look at the worst memories, and we’ll float back as far as you can to the first time you felt that way about yourself. Was it when dad left? Or the first time mom told you, “You were a mistake.”, or the first time you had a friend betray you? Those memories hurt. They also stick with you. With EMDR, the memory will always be there, but it won’t always sting.

Neurofeedback

After getting a better understanding of your life and circumstances, if we find there is a pervasive or chronic condition, such as a life-long battle with depression, anxiety, OCD, or addiction, or if you have early childhood trauma and you have always had strong emotional responses to stress, then we’ll look at using neurofeedback to help regulate your brain. Your struggle might not be a “you” issue. It might be a brain issue.